Beautifully Unbroken

Beautifully Unbroken

From victim, to survivor, to thriver

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  • Rage Storms

    Rage Storms

    There are many symptoms that contribute to the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).  One of those symptoms is defined on the Mayo Clinic1 website as follows: React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior. This is the symptom that has profoundly affected my life as […]

    Kris Martinez

    January 6, 2022
    domestic violence, Relationships
    christian, domestic violence, family, freedom, help, jesus, Love, wisdom
  • To Be or Not to Be

    To Be or Not to Be

    Narcissism is complicated.  Sort of. Up to this point, I have avoided using the term narcissist because it needs to be better clarified. We live in a society that promotes self-centeredness, which gives way to narcissistic behaviors and thought patterns. However, just because you don’t like the way someone treats you or doesn’t act the […]

    Kris Martinez

    December 30, 2021
    domestic violence, Relationships
    christian, domestic violence, freedom, hope, jesus, Love, wisdom
  • Ebony: Part 4

    Ebony: Part 4

    It is one thing to devise an escape plan; it is another to walk it out.  The reality is that, as a helper and support person, it requires a lot of time, effort, and constant attention.  Although Dick had been evicted from Ebony’s home, he managed to keep controlling her and, unbeknownst to anyone, was […]

    Kris Martinez

    December 21, 2021
    domestic violence, Relationships
    christian, domestic violence, freedom, help, hope, jesus, Love, wisdom
  • Ebony: Part 3

    Ebony:  Part 3

    Self-worth: If you don’t define what it is for yourself, someone else will gladly define it for you. In Ebony’s case, as told in Ebony: Part 1, Joey and Ricky did a thorough job of breaking her down and, when she met Dick, she had no idea how much more breaking could be done.  Even […]

    Kris Martinez

    December 14, 2021
    domestic violence
    christian, domestic violence, freedom, help, hope, jesus, Love, wisdom
  • Ebony: Part 2

    Ebony: Part 2

    Someone who is desperately looking for something to fulfill them will keep looking until they find it. Ebony was searching for love and approval and, although she continued to choose abusive men, she couldn’t escape this pattern. Abusers know whom to look for in their victims and Ebony was a clear target. Her deep-seated insecurities […]

    Kris Martinez

    December 7, 2021
    domestic violence
    christian, domestic violence, family, freedom, help, jesus, wisdom
  • Ebony: Part 1

    Ebony:  Part 1

    The cycle of domestic violence is a very difficult one to break and can get passed on for generations. In my last blog, Chasing the Winds of Approval, I wrote about how elusive seeking the approval of someone who is emotionally unavailable can be. Now, I will tell the story of Ebony, who grew up feeling emotionally […]

    Kris Martinez

    November 30, 2021
    domestic violence
    domestic violence, freedom, help, hope, Love, wisdom
  • Chasing the Winds of Approval

    Chasing the Winds of Approval

    When I look back on my experiences in life I can list so many things that I had to overcome. One of the most difficult, however, was learning how to accept myself even when there was a lack of approval from those around me. It was programmed into my head that I was not smart […]

    Kris Martinez

    November 23, 2021
    domestic violence, Relationships
    christian, domestic violence, freedom, friend, help, hope, jesus, Love, wisdom
  • Never Cry Again

    Never Cry Again

    Domestic violence takes many forms and, although the abuse usually begins with one person, it can quickly become a learned behavior. When you grow up in an abusive environment, children pick up on the behavior and begin to mirror the actions of their abuser in one form or another. You can never tell which way […]

    Kris Martinez

    November 16, 2021
    domestic violence, Relationships
    christian, domestic violence, family, freedom, hope, jesus, Love
  • Put the Gavel Down

    Put the Gavel Down

    Sharing my story has been an emotional journey as it is not easy to tap back into those memories and relive them. However, it has been a healthy exercise to look back and see how far I have advanced in my life. I have taken my experiences and have done my best to allow them […]

    Kris Martinez

    November 9, 2021
    Relationships
    family, friend, hope, jesus, judgement, judging, Love, Relationships, wisdom
  • Eryn

    Eryn

    Disclaimer: Every story I share is a real person with a real story. However, I have changed their names, their family dynamics and a few details, in order to protect their identities. When it comes to working with victims of domestic violence (DV) I never planned on doing so. In fact, it took years to […]

    Kris Martinez

    November 3, 2021
    domestic violence, Relationships
    domestic violence, family, freedom, help, Relationships, wisdom
  • Nini

    Nini

    Growing up in a violent home shakes your entire being and it is hard to explain it to someone who has not experienced it. I have lost most of my childhood memories but, through the years, many suppressed memories have made it back into my brain. Most of them are not good, however, they serve […]

    Kris Martinez

    October 27, 2021
    domestic violence, Relationships
    family, friend, hope, jesus, Relationships, wholeness, wisdom
  • Triple Dog Dare

    Triple Dog Dare

    As we move forward together, it is important to explain that, when I speak of Jesus and His role in my life, it is because I am sharing my life experience in which He plays a vital role.  Having said that, I will never criticize anyone holding different beliefs than mine.  I am not here […]

    Kris Martinez

    October 23, 2021
    Christianity, domestic violence, Life
    domestic violence, family, freedom, jesus, Love, Relationships, wisdom
  • Fast Forward to Now

    Fast Forward to Now

    That first blog was tough to put out there because that is some personal stuff! However, I have always believed that it is so important to be real and honest about our lives. If we can do that, then we are able to have genuine conversations that are healthy and will breathe life to everyone. […]

    Kris Martinez

    October 13, 2021
    Christianity, domestic violence, Life
    domestic violence, family, freedom, hope, Relationships, wisdom
  • The Breaking Begins

    The Breaking Begins

    My father grew up in an extremely violent home and, at the age of 17, lied about his age and joined the Army to escape the violence. Ironically, he ended up fighting in World War II. When he got out of the Army, he married his first wife and had six children. Unfortunately, his drinking, […]

    Kris Martinez

    October 9, 2021
    Christianity, domestic violence
    christian, domestic violence, help, hope, jesus
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